@ToonLink it's really been years of dealing with him and trying to figure something out for my mom, brother and me. and i'm still looking. i have hope. and it really feels a little better to get it out to other people. i'm going to try to get healthcare so i can try to get therapy or something to help with my anxiety so maybe i can get a part time job
@ToonLink thank you so much. just taking the time to read what I wrote out helps me feel a little better.
i realize hundreds of people in the world have it much worse than me, but i can't take this every week.
but what should i expect? this is the man that took me to his drug dealers house and made me wait outside when i was 11. and made me and my little brother wait 3 hours for dinner one time when the mcdonalds was less than a mile away.
he literally told me he didn't want to live in this house anymore because of me. and i was like, "trust me, i don't want to be here with you. but at least you have the money to leave. i can't even answer the phone. i need to finally get the therapy you promised to get me but never did before i can get a job."
and when we have to sit down to discuss later, he tells me how he shows he that he loves me by not forcing me to get a job (when i have extreme social anxiety and depression) and how he does so much for me. and i just tell him this is it. i can't pretend like i want to try to be his friend anymore when he treats me like shit at least once a week.
instead of reacting like a normal human being he steps toward me with gritted teeth, raises his voice at me. i try to explain myself, he runs and shuts the bedroom door so hard that the house shakes. i'm bothered, scared, say he's acting like a psychopath. he screams fuck off at me at the top of his lungs.
so i'm not arguing, i'm trying to understand what he's saying. i am repeating exactly what he means right back to him. but he gets pissy, says i'm wrong, and when i try to explain myself he starts running away. i call down the hallway and try following him "please don't walk away from me"
whenever i try to explain myself he runs out of the room so he doesn't have to hear my side. after last week when he made me break down he promised he wouldn't do that anymore.